طلبہ کے جنسی مسائل انجنیئرنگ کے ایک اسٹوڈنٹ نے اپنے مسائل کے بارے ایک خط لکھا ہے اور بہت خوبصورتی سے اپنے مسائل کو بیان کیا ہے۔ وہ مجھ سے ان کے حل کے بارے پوچھ رہے ہیں لیکن میں چونکہ اپنے الفاظ میں اس کے مسئلے کی اہمیت اور شدت کو بیان کرنے سے قاصر ہوں لہذا میں نے ان سے اجازت چاہی کہ میں اس کا یہ خط پبلش کر دوں تو اس کی انہوں نے اجازت دے دی ہے۔ بہر حال پہلے تو آپ ان نوجوان کا خط پڑھیں تا کہ ان کے مسئلے کا اندازہ ہو۔ اور یہ خط پبلش کرنے کا مقصد صرف یہ ہے کہ ایک نوجوان کا مسئلہ نہیں ہے بلکہ یہ ہر مذہبی نوجوان کے دل کے جذبات ہیں لیکن اس نوجوان کی خوبصورت بات یہ ہے کہ اس نے ان جذبات کو زبان دے دی ہے۔
I am a religious guy and studying engineering. I pray regularly and people around me consider me super religious. It seems I'm stuck in life. The fitnah of women has completely devastated my life. Alhumdulillah I don't sin, and it has been more than 4 years that I have left music, movies, dramas, seasons. I am safe from any addiction or pornography. But women are everywhere, and my life's theme has become "not seeing women".
I have been completely consumed by the struggle to save myself. Because of this, I want to marry early for which I need at least a decent job and here is where my 2nd trouble lies. 3 years of studying engineering have ... shattered my self-esteem and confidence to be able to obtain and sustain any decent engineering job due to which marriage seems a faraway possibility and a daunting task.
I have been praying for years to get a breakthrough in these two troubles of mine. I've been praying so hard to Allah to increase my skill in my field ... to perform in my field, get a good job and get married. Nothing is improving. Nothing is changing. I have been through countless cycles of hopelessness, depression and then recovery through hope in Allah again. But nothing is changing on the ground.
My life has become so dull over these years. Every entertainment is haram. Everything has women in it. Everything halal in terms of entertainment is either unavailable or unreachable or very little. I am always questioning my approach towards dealing with the fitnah of women. It seems I am overdoing 'avoiding women' which has made me paranoid and my whole life is now centered around this thing. My soul is screaming from the inside.
I am too much overburdened, overstressed. No one knows or understands my struggles. Everyone out there is 'normal' and into movies, seasons, relationships and entertainment while I have become a crazy paranoid with a dull life over these years. I am serious and unhappy most of the times and my mood is somehow bad due to the fitnah of women. Either I am frustrated about the immorality in the society or I am fighting the latest surge of desire due to some outside or inside the trigger. I thought leaving haram will give me peace. But my life has become constricted even after establishing prayer for years and leaving haram.
I have been completely consumed by the struggle to save myself. Because of this, I want to marry early for which I need at least a decent job and here is where my 2nd trouble lies. 3 years of studying engineering have ... shattered my self-esteem and confidence to be able to obtain and sustain any decent engineering job due to which marriage seems a faraway possibility and a daunting task.
I have been praying for years to get a breakthrough in these two troubles of mine. I've been praying so hard to Allah to increase my skill in my field ... to perform in my field, get a good job and get married. Nothing is improving. Nothing is changing. I have been through countless cycles of hopelessness, depression and then recovery through hope in Allah again. But nothing is changing on the ground.
My life has become so dull over these years. Every entertainment is haram. Everything has women in it. Everything halal in terms of entertainment is either unavailable or unreachable or very little. I am always questioning my approach towards dealing with the fitnah of women. It seems I am overdoing 'avoiding women' which has made me paranoid and my whole life is now centered around this thing. My soul is screaming from the inside.
I am too much overburdened, overstressed. No one knows or understands my struggles. Everyone out there is 'normal' and into movies, seasons, relationships and entertainment while I have become a crazy paranoid with a dull life over these years. I am serious and unhappy most of the times and my mood is somehow bad due to the fitnah of women. Either I am frustrated about the immorality in the society or I am fighting the latest surge of desire due to some outside or inside the trigger. I thought leaving haram will give me peace. But my life has become constricted even after establishing prayer for years and leaving haram.